The person/s with ADHD seem to exhist in a
whirlwind of disorganization or frenzied activities.
On some days they seem fine, which often
leads others to think that he can control his
behaviors.
Thus it can be rewarding at times and at
other times it can have it's own unique
problems.
The characteristics vary and as a result can affect the persons relationships.
It's not the diagnosis of ADHD but how you choose to deal OR not deal with the diagnosis.
With ADHD they may be unable to sit still, always moving or fidgiting.
Distracted by unimportant sights and sounds where their thoughts are constantly shifting so they are unable
to finish tasks.
Lack of attention to details.
They may be forgetful.
They may have a hard time keeping their minds on one task and may get bored easily.
They may give effortless attention to activities or relationships.
They may not even know that you are speaking to them.
They may talk incessantly.
They may need to touch everything or make noise, or have sensitivities to touch, sound or smells.
They may bounce around from one activity to another, being unable to complete one task.
With impulsitivity they are unable to think before they act or speak.
Blurting out inappropriate comments, can't wait their turn or dart out in front of traffic with out looking.
They might seem less mature for his age.
May have trouble making and keeping friends.
Many times it is up to the Non ADHD partner to take on many responsibilities.
The stress that these responsibilities put upon
the partner can lead to resentment.
Each partner MUST contribute to the relationship.
It can not be all GIVE or all Take.
The relationship is a give and take from the best qualities of each partner.
You may have to think of the responsibilitiies as a His--Hers and/or Ours.
What may not be your best in one area can be made up in another area from which you have a better capability of doing
thus creating an equal balance on BOTH partners.
You have to value and respect each others strengths and weaknesses.
