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Behavior

 
BEHAVIOR
 
 

A Child's 10 Commandments for Parenting

 By Dr. Kevin Leman

  1. My hands are small; please dont expect perfection whenever I make a bed, draw a picture or throw a ball.  My legs are short; please slow down so that I can keep up with you.
  2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have; please let me explore safely.  Dont restrict me unnecessarily.
  3. Housework will always be there. Im little for only a short time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly.
  4. My feelings are tender; please be sensitive to my needs.  Dont nag me all day long. (You wouldnt want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness.)  Treat me as you would like to be treated.
  5. I am a special gift from God; please treasure me as God intended you to do, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a loving manner.
  6. I need your encouragement to grow.  Please go easy on the criticism; remember you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me.
  7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself.  Permit me to fail so that I can learn from my mistakes.  Then someday Ill be prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me.
  8. Please dont do things over me.  Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didnt quite measure up to your expectations.  I know its hard, but please dont try to compare me with my brother or sister.
  9. Please dont be afraid to leave for a weekend together.  Kids need vacations from the parents, just as parents need vacations from kids.   Besides, its a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.
  10. Please take me to Sunday school and church regularly, setting a good example for me to follow.  I enjoy learning more about God.

 

Remember that all children are not the same.  This pertains to discipline as well, What works for one child may not work for another.
You have to find the technique that works best for your child and yourself.
 
You can not control either the way your child thinks or the way they behave. But you do have control over how you react to the situation.
 
Adhd conditions can only be managed; not cured and although sometimes these children's symptoms subside with age, often they remain into adulthood.

 
THE THREE R's
RESPECT FOR YOURSELF
RESPECT FOR OTHERS
RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL YOUR ACTIONS.
 
JUDGE YOUR SUCCESS
BY,
WHAT YOU HAD TO GIVE UP
IN ORDER TO GET IT.
 

Can food allergies affect a child's behavior?

http://health.ivillage.com/allergy/alspecific/0,,1sr,00.html

What Is Behavior Modification?

Home Behavioral Management Concepts

Home Survival Basics
Swears, Lies and Videogames

ADHD The Tip of the Iceberg
Problems & Summary

School Behavior.com
Teacher-friendly site covering Tourette's Syndrome, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperacitivity Disorder, executive dysfunction, depression and Bipolar Disorder in children, ...

ADHD of the Christian Kind
Free online resources to aid the parents of special needs children: Daily Schedules, Chore Charts, Rules and Consequences, and more

Dealing With ADD Behaviors At School

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Nurtured Heart Approach

Spank Free Discipline
 

Constructing Positive Behaviors

SCHOOL BEHAVIOR.COM  BOOKS

Does My Child Need Residental Treatment
Many of us are coping with kids who exhibit challenging behaviors. Despite the headaches of parenting; we as parents want to do everything that we possibly can to help our child. But when is enough, just that, enough? One of the most difficult and heartbreaking decisions a family can make is to decide that residential treatment is needed for their child.
 
 
 

Wheel of Dreaded Consequences
 
 

I DID MY CHORES !
The "I Did My Chores!" system makes chore time painless. Kids willingly do their chores and earn rewards for their work. Parents no longer have to nag to get the chores done!
 
 

Visit Practical Tips for ways to recognize and address
Behaviors associated with ADHD
 
 

10 FAMILY GUIDELINES for LIVING with a HYPERACTIVE CHILD
 
 
 

HELPING YOUR CHILD WITH ADHD ACCOMPLISH
TASKS AT HOME
be sure to read all the links on the page
 
 
 

Managing Misbehavior in Children with ADHD
 
 
 

 
Discipline Can Be Simple
 
 
 

Effective Behavior Techniques
1. Make sure the rules are fully understood
 
2.Establish consequences for the broken rules
 
3.Be consistent
 
4.Reward good behavior
 
5.Punish bad behavior-focus on the unappropriate behavior good
   examples would be-
   time out,
   take away privilages
 
6.Choose your battles
 
7.Punish immediately
 
8.Don't argue
 
9.Be firm but loving

Look for positive behavior in your children and reward it.  
For example, if your child is playing nicely, compliment him .  Being good in a restaurant, not interupting a conversation, putting toys away, chores, being good while you shop.
 
The most powerful reward  can be defined as "Praise, Recognition, and Positive Attention for Good Behavior.
 
Adhd conditions can only be managed; not cured and although sometimes these children's symptoms subside with age, often they remain into adulthood. 
 

     ANGER MANAGEMENT STRATIGIES FOR KIDS
 
 
 

Gentle Tips For Calming Kids
 

Tips On Counseling
Counseling for ADD ADHD
by Dr Douglas Cowan, Psy.D.
A licensed Family Therapist
 

C.A.R.S for Kids 
behavior modification
        program
Credit & Reward system 
designed to modify negative
    behavioral problems
 

21 Points
List three behaviors that are causing problems.

3 points per day will add up to 21 per week. Anything under that will be rewarded with something the child chooses within reason. Choices should be discussed at the beginning of every week (movies, extra TV, friend sleep over). This will help the child achieve their goal.

Now, the child receives one warning for the behavior listed on the board. After that, the parent does not talk or yell or argue, they simply get up and put a check next to the behavior.

Do not engage in any discussion.
Parents can also remove checks when the child has caught themself in the problem behavior and has stopped and choosen the proper behavior. Positive reinforcement is the key.
 
 

123 Magic
The first time the child misbehaves, get his attention
and tell him that is warning 1
The second time-warning 2
The third time is punishment
      Time out or pre determined punishment for
       misbehavior
 
 
 

Additional work
Usually a chore no one else likes to do
   Examples would be
   Raking leaves
   Memorizing
   Folding Clothes
   Help with dishes
   Vacuuming
   Set the table
 
 
Bribery
 

 
PARENTING SKILLS/DISCIPLINE
by Elaine M. Gibson
 
1.DISCIPLINE: USING NATURAL AND LOGICAL
   CONSEQUENCES TO TEACH
 
   DISCIPLINE IS BETTER THAN PUNISHMENT
   SO WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE
 
2.THE IMPORTANCE OF SETTING LIMITS
 
   SETTING LIMITS IS EASY-ENFORCING THEM IS NOT
 
3.THREE STEP DISCIPLINE PLAN
 
4.INSTEAD OF ORDERS-OFFER CHOICES
 
  GOOD DECISION MAKING BEGINS WITH SMALL CHOICES
 
5.RECIPE FOR SUCCESSFUL TIME OUTS
 
   EFFECTIVE TIME OUTS
 
6.WHAT TO DO AND NOT TO DO WHEN SIBLINGS FIGHT
 
7.SIMPLE STEPS TO STOP ARGUERS
 
   ANTI-ARGUING INSTRUCTIONS
 
8.PARENTING GUIDELINES
 
   GENERAL GUIDELINES FOR PARENTING  or
   FIRST RULE: THERE ARE NO RULES
 
9.WAYS TO REDUCE THE HASSLES
 
   TIPS FOR REDUCING HASSLES
 
10.USELESS POWER STRUGGLES TO AVOID
 
11.PARENTAL AUTHORITY-IT'S AN ADDITUDE
 
     PARENTAL AUTHORITY
 
12.IT'S A MISTAKE TO BE TOO NICE
 
     BEGGING AND PLEADING FOR MERCY-DON'T FALL FOR IT
 
Parenting Skills/Discipline
 
 

TIME OUT
 
10Time Out Techniques
 
 
 

Behavior Modification Programs

You Can't Make Me
Strageties for Bringing Out the Best In Your Strong Willed Child
by Cynthia Ulrich Tobias
 
order the book
exerpts

 
CONDUCT DISORDER
A repetitive and persistent pattern of behavior in which the basic rights of others are violated
 
 
 

ARGUING AND BACK TALK
 
 
 

 
HAPPY HOLIDAYS FOR KIDS WITH ADHD
 
 
 
 

What Parents Can Do About Disruptive Behavior
Strategies to cope with children's disruptive behavior problems.
http://childparenting.about.com/library/weekly/aa012003a.htm?terms=parenting
 
 

Top 10 ways to Deal With Overwhelm

LYING
 

Lying
 
 

Lying- Why It Happens and What To Do About It
 
 

Helping Children Who Have a Problem With Lying

Lying

Help With Child Discipline

Kuddle Kids Korner
Creative Parenting Ideas

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