A Child's 10 Commandments for Parenting
By Dr. Kevin Leman
- My hands are small; please dont expect perfection
whenever I make a bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short; please
slow down so that I can keep up with you.
- My eyes have not seen the world as yours have;
please let me explore safely. Dont restrict me unnecessarily.
- Housework will always be there. Im little for only
a short time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly.
- My feelings are tender; please be sensitive to
my needs. Dont nag me all day long. (You wouldnt want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness.) Treat me as you would like to be treated.
- I am a special gift from God; please treasure me
as God intended you to do, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a
- I need your encouragement to grow. Please go easy on the criticism; remember you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me.
- Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning
myself. Permit me to fail so that I can learn from my mistakes. Then someday Ill be prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me.
- Please dont do things over me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didnt quite measure up to your expectations. I know its hard, but please dont try to compare me with my brother or sister.
- Please dont be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need vacations from the parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides, its a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.
- Please take me to Sunday school and church regularly,
setting a good example for me to follow. I enjoy learning more about God.
Remember that all children are not the same. This pertains to discipline as well, What works for one child
may not work for another.
You have to find the technique that works best for your child and yourself.
You can not control either the way your child thinks or the way they behave. But you do have control over how you react
to the situation.
Adhd conditions can only be managed; not cured and although sometimes these children's symptoms subside
with age, often they remain into adulthood.
THE THREE R's
RESPECT FOR YOURSELF
RESPECT FOR OTHERS
RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL YOUR ACTIONS.
JUDGE YOUR SUCCESS
WHAT YOU HAD TO GIVE UP
IN ORDER TO GET IT.
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1. Make sure the rules are fully understood
2.Establish consequences for the broken rules
4.Reward good behavior
5.Punish bad behavior-focus on the unappropriate behavior good
examples would be-
take away privilages
6.Choose your battles
9.Be firm but loving
Look for positive behavior in your children and reward it.
For example, if your child is playing nicely, compliment him . Being good in a restaurant, not interupting
a conversation, putting toys away, chores, being good while you shop.
The most powerful reward can be defined as "Praise, Recognition, and Positive Attention for Good Behavior.
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Credit & Reward system
designed to modify negative
List three behaviors that are causing problems.
3 points per day will add up to 21 per week. Anything under that
will be rewarded with something the child chooses within reason. Choices should be discussed at the beginning of every week
(movies, extra TV, friend sleep over). This will help the child achieve their goal.
Now, the child receives one warning
for the behavior listed on the board. After that, the parent does not talk or yell or argue, they simply get up and put a
check next to the behavior.
Do not engage in any discussion.
Parents can also remove checks when the child has
caught themself in the problem behavior and has stopped and choosen the proper behavior. Positive reinforcement is the key.
The first time the child misbehaves, get his attention
and tell him that is warning 1
The second time-warning 2
The third time is punishment
Time out or pre determined punishment for
Usually a chore no one else likes to do
Examples would be
Help with dishes
Set the table
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1.DISCIPLINE: USING NATURAL AND LOGICAL
CONSEQUENCES TO TEACH
DISCIPLINE IS BETTER THAN PUNISHMENT
SO WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE
2.THE IMPORTANCE OF SETTING LIMITS
SETTING LIMITS IS EASY-ENFORCING THEM IS NOT
3.THREE STEP DISCIPLINE PLAN
4.INSTEAD OF ORDERS-OFFER CHOICES
GOOD DECISION MAKING BEGINS WITH SMALL CHOICES
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EFFECTIVE TIME OUTS
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